If you are a Christian divorced woman, then you might be seen as damaged, unworthy, or inadequate. Others might think that it is your fault and if only you had “(fill in the blank here)” then your marriage would have worked. You may be seen as less fit to serve Christ and His church.
Let’s say the divorce is your fault. You are fully responsible for the end of the covenant with your husband (this is almost never the case). Okay, that would make it a sin. Scripture tells us that when we ask for forgiveness He is faithful to forgive us. If God forgives you, you have no right to hold it against yourself and neither does anyone else. When forgiven, the sin no longer exists. You can let it go.
If it was mostly your husband’s fault, you may feel deeply betrayed, abandoned, alone. You may have much to forgive him for and you are commanded to forgive. Transfer his debt to Christ. He then no longer owes you anything.
In either case, you need to heal. You need to grieve. You need to learn to undo the way you related that led to the divorce (your part) and become healthy in every way.
You might need to take time to do this. You might need to jump in and serve. It is hard to give what you do not have so make sure the Lord is restoring you so that you have resources of heart to share.
Know that you are loved, chosen, forgiven, a child of the Holy One. Even if the sin was yours it is level ground at the foot of the cross. There is no one better or worse than you there. We all needed a Savior and we all have hurt and been hurt. Do not let anyone treat you as if they stand above you at the cross. If they do that is their sin of judgment.
If you have children you have a Father who has not abandoned them. You have a bridegroom who loves you. You have a God who still has plans for your life for good.
Biblical Study on Christian Women
You might want to read a study on Christian women in the New Testament and the various roles a Christian woman played.
What has not changed since our Lord walked the earth is His love for women no matter their role and His call to them to be godly, God-
“I work with individuals to actually find themselves in Christ and have their lives truly function well in Him. Often I am serving those most hurt by the world – those who have experienced severe trauma and abuse and helping them to find complete healing from the pain and the memories.
I have seen the Lord heal hundreds. Nothing has been too difficult for Him.”