The same pain that paralyzed can now cause one to act on their own behalf. When the pain can no longer be tolerated it will motivate one to find an answer and find relief.
Shame-based individuals learn to deny, ignore and escape their feelings. The result is that they can't identify their feelings and wouldn't know how to express them if they could.
Shame passes generationally like a genetic trait. It is caused by family secrets passed down parent to child, parent to child. Fear of abandonment lies beneath the shame.
Shame is at the foundation of every compulsive, self-defeating behavior. It is at the root of all addictions. It drives behavior as an attempt to cover up the hidden core of shame.
Shame is a feeling of worthlessness. It is a feeling of brokenness and defectiveness. I made a mistake becomes I am a mistake.”
I can use my power to take good care of myself. If Christ so valued my life that He chose to become human and die for my benefit then I can also do what is in my power to care for myself.