The same pain that paralyzed can now cause one to act on their own behalf. When the pain can no longer be tolerated it will motivate one to find an answer and find relief.
Shame-based individuals learn to deny, ignore and escape their feelings. The result is that they can't identify their feelings and wouldn't know how to express them if they could.
Shame passes generationally like a genetic trait. It is caused by family secrets passed down parent to child, parent to child. Fear of abandonment lies beneath the shame.
Shame is at the foundation of every compulsive, self-defeating behavior. It is at the root of all addictions. It drives behavior as an attempt to cover up the hidden core of shame.
Shame is a feeling of worthlessness. It is a feeling of brokenness and defectiveness. I made a mistake becomes I am a mistake.”
Two very good friends of mine both had benzo reactions that changed their lives. Both were vibrant, intelligent, godly women who took medication prescribed by their doctors when circumstances in their lives caused some anxiety.
Anorexia is an emotional illness. It alters the thinking of the victim in many ways. Anorexics believe that being thin is the most important thing in their lives. It become the biggest part of their existence and they fear that without it they will be nothing.
Society's pressure to be beautiful has an immense effect on a young person. Girls are aware of what "pretty" means before they enter kindergarten and quickly discover where they stand in relation to the other girls. As a girl moves through elementary grades she will discover, if she is deemed "pretty," that boys pay more attention to her, she is more easily accepted, thought to be smarter, and her teachers are nicer to her.
I'm sure you've heard this before. You have a chemical imbalance in your brain so you need medications to fix this. This is why you have depression or anxiety or whatever is ailing you. Then you are prescribed powerful psychiatric drugs. You start on the medications and you might feel a bit better at first but what is really happening?
Weight problems look pretty obvious to you, right? Well, yes, you can see the results of overeating but the reasons that cause one to overeat are hidden below the surface and not obvious at all.